Figure Us Out. Personality guides for couples. Get the couples package
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Understand yourself.Understand each other.

Discover how each of you thinks and communicates with personalized reports and a couples guidebook.

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Alex Morgan
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What the couples package includes

Your complete personal guides, couples guidebook, AI guide, workbook and print-ready book.

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Your personal report

What makes you, you.

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Your partner’s report

See their perspective.

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Your couples guidebook

See how you work together.

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Your 12-week workbook

Put what you learn into practice.

Ever feel like you’re talking past each other?

Your couples guidebook helps you understand each other’s perspective and find a clearer way to talk.

A couple sharing a conversation across their kitchen counter

When one of you wants to change the plan

Alex wants to accept a last-minute invitation, but Morgan has already bought ingredients and prepared dinner for their evening at home.

From the sample couples guidebook

Alex may mean

“This could be a good chance to try something new.” 

Morgan may hear

“The time I spent preparing doesn’t matter.” 

Alex is excited to try something new. Morgan wants the time and care she put into their plans to matter. Understanding both perspectives can help them decide together.

A clearer way to say it

“I’d like to go, but I know you’ve already prepared dinner. How would you feel about saving it for tomorrow? It’s okay if you’d rather stick with our plan.”

Alex acknowledges Morgan’s effort and asks before changing their plans.

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See a pattern they can get stuck in

How they get caught in the same argument

  1. Alex explains his intentions and the bigger idea.
  2. Morgan hears him avoiding the practical issue, so she becomes more specific.
  3. Alex pushes back. Morgan presses the point. Both feel less understood.

A way to interrupt it: Acknowledge the feeling or effort first. Then ask what kind of help would be useful.

Adapted from “Offering solutions before your partner feels understood” in Alex and Morgan’s sample guidebook.

Illustrative scenario adapted from Alex and Morgan’s sample guidebook. Report excerpts shared with permission from a real couple. Names changed for privacy.

What people are saying

5.0 out of 5 from 6 published reviews

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Ruth

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“I felt that it sparked a lot of great conversations about different scenarios that we had already been through and how we could do it better with more understanding.”
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Sep 24, 2026

Aaron

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“This guide is helping me understand better how to help my wife feel more love. It is so accurate about our different styles.”
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Oct 02, 2026

Joseph

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“My wife and I took the assessment independently, and comparing our profiles generated some great insights into how our personalities blend.”
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Sep 25, 2026

Your personality report and couples comparison, free.

Read four personal chapters about your strengths, how you think and what you enjoy, with charts that help you see your patterns. Then invite your partner to compare your personalities side by side. There is plenty to explore, whether or not you upgrade.

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Compare the free experience and full package

Start with personal insights into your strengths and how you think. Then invite your partner to explore your similarities and differences, side by side. No payment details. Upgrade if you want to.

Your free experience and the optional full package
What you getFreeFull package
$35
for both of you
Four personal chapters: your overview, strengths, thinking style and what you enjoy✓✓
See your personality at a glance with charts and words that describe you✓✓
Compare how you and your partner approach everyday life✓✓
Try the first week of the couples workbook✓✓
Your deeper motivations, stress patterns and relationships, plus exact personality types○✓
Full couples guide: your strengths, recurring patterns and how to work through them○✓
A personal AI guide for your questions, plus all 12 workbook weeks○✓
Your complete, personalized book to download and print○✓

One payment covers both of you. No subscription. Your completed answers carry over. Printing and shipping are separate.

How Figure Us Out works

See how Figure Us Out works

  1. Start with your assessment

    Choose the couples package or try the assessment free. You can each take it whenever you’re ready.

  2. Discover your personality

    Allow about 15 to 20 minutes for your assessment. Your personal results are ready when you finish.

  3. Invite your partner

    Save your results with email and send your partner a private invitation. Their invitation connects your results for a shared comparison.

  4. Go deeper when you want to

    The optional full package adds your couples guidebook, AI guide, workbook and personalized print-ready book. One payment covers both of you.

More about how it works
Get the couples package for $35

One payment covers both of you. No subscription.

Included for each of you

Your personal reports

Understand how each of you thinks, communicates, and approaches everyday life.

Alex’s sample report

How you find your words

“Talking isn’t always how you present a finished opinion. Sometimes it’s how you figure out the opinion in the first place.”

An excerpt from Alex’s sample report.

A page from Alex’s report showing his personality at a glance and what makes him who he is

Morgan’s sample report

How you show care

“You often show affection by being reliable. You remember details, keep agreements, offer practical help, and notice what could make someone’s day easier.”

An excerpt from Morgan’s sample report.

A page from Morgan’s report showing her personality at a glance and what makes her who she is
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A closer look at each of you

Your strengths, what matters to you, how you respond under pressure, and what helps you feel understood.

Alex’s sample report

Alex’s sample report, page 3: You at a glance and What makes you, you
“Alex, you want room to explore, follow what feels alive, and choose your own direction. You also want solid people around you and some sense that the ground won’t vanish under your feet.”
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Morgan’s sample report

Morgan’s sample report, page 3: You at a glance and What makes you, you
“Morgan, you want to do right by people and be someone they can count on. You notice what needs doing, care about doing it well, and would rather make life calmer than create extra trouble.”
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Included for the two of you

Your couples guidebook

See how your personalities interact, where misunderstandings can arise, and ways to support each other.

Sample couples guidebook

Alex and Morgan’s preferences

Alex Morgan
Six everyday preferences Clockwise from the top: Solitude to Social, Examples to Concepts, Wing it to Plan it, Think quietly to Think aloud, Comfort to Solutions, and Move on to Fine-tune. A position closer to an outside word leans toward that preference. The middle ring means a balance between the two preferences. The center is empty. Neither endpoint is better, and shape size and overlap are not compatibility scores. Names in the legend identify the solid blue line with circles and the dashed rust line with diamonds. The scales below describe each person’s preferences. Solitude Social Examples Concepts Wing it Plan it Think quietly Think aloud Comfort Solutions Move on Fine-tune
See where their everyday preferences are similar and different. Neither end is better.

From Alex and Morgan’s sample guidebook

What each of you brings to the relationship.

“Alex brings energy, options, and forward movement. Morgan brings care, clear standards, and follow-through. This can make you effective together without locking either of you into one role.”
Open a sample page about Alex and Morgan’s natural strengthsOpen a sample page about how Alex and Morgan may each feel loved
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Understand the person beside you

Explore your strengths as a pair, each person’s perspective, everyday differences, conflict and repair, and how you each feel loved.

Your natural strengths

See what each person contributes and how those differences can work together.

Actual sample guidebook page 7: Alex and Morgan’s natural strengths

How you each feel loved

Suggestions to explore together, with room for your own experiences and preferences.

Actual sample guidebook page 18: How Alex and Morgan may each feel loved
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Included in your couples package

Your 12-week couples workbook

Put what you learn into practice through guided conversations and exercises.

Make time to understand each other.

Each of you has your own space to write. Your drafts stay private until you choose to share them.

Use it online or print a copy, and go at your own pace.

A couple sitting close together and looking at a tablet
Sample printable workbook pages from week 7, How to help each other
A printable workbook example. Included in your digital package.
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Week 7 · Read-only sample

How to help each other

See how a prompt becomes a conversation. Write privately first, then choose what you want to share.

Online workbook · Sample view

Read-only screenshot of the online workbook with private drafts and sharing controls
Sample names and blank answers. This image shows the workbook’s layout.
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Printable week 7 workbook: How to help each other
A printable page from the included 12-week workbook.
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Common questions

What comes with the couples package?

One purchase includes an in-depth personality report for each of you, your personalized couples guidebook, downloadable PDFs, and a 12-week workbook you can use online or print.

You also each get a personal AI guide with 100 replies. Ask about your personality, explore something in your report, or talk through an everyday situation.

What is the assessment like?

You each answer questions about your own personality. Allow about 15 to 20 minutes. You can pause and come back.

You won’t be asked to describe your relationship problems or judge your partner.

An example from the assessment
Example question: I often need to talk through an idea before I know what I think about it. Choices range from Very Inaccurate to Very Accurate.

Questions adapt to your answers, so your assessment may include different questions.

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Do we have to take the assessment at the same time?

No. You can each take it whenever you’re ready.

Your free personal guide is available after you finish, without waiting for your partner. Once both assessments are complete and sharing is active, your free visual couples comparison is available. If you choose the full package, we also prepare your couples guidebook and email you when it is ready.

Who can see my answers and reports?

Your assessment answers aren’t shown to your partner, and your reports aren’t public. With the free experience, you each have your own personal guide and see the same visual couples comparison when sharing is active. The full package adds a shared couples guidebook.

With the full package, your complete personality reports are shared with each other by default. You can check or change report sharing in your account.

If you’ve already made a sharing choice, we’ll keep it.

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What if I’ve already taken the free assessment?

If your results are saved to an account, use the same email. If they are still in this browser, save them with email when you want to invite your partner or upgrade. Your completed answers carry over.

The new free experience includes your opening, strengths, thinking style and enjoyment chapters, personality visuals and a couples comparison. Upgrading unlocks your motivation, pressure and connection chapters, exact personality types, full couples guidebook, AI guide, workbook and PDF downloads.

If you took an earlier free assessment, your original saved report stays available. Open your account to see your existing results and upgrade options.

How are the reports made?

Your answers are used to build your personality profile. AI helps turn that profile into your in-depth personality report using our report framework.

Your couples guidebook brings both profiles together to explain possible strengths, misunderstandings, and ways to support each other.

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What is the refund policy?

If you’re dissatisfied with your package, submit the refund form within 14 days of purchase for a full refund. Choose a reason and leave a short private comment. We aim to review requests within 24 hours.

A refund returns the full amount actually paid for that package, including applicable tax, to the original payment method and ends online access for both people. Bank processing takes additional time. Delivery problems and applicable consumer rights remain separately covered.

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James and Julie smiling together

A note from James and Julie

We’re a married couple in Hawaii with four kids, and we’re still learning about ourselves and each other. Learning about our personalities has helped us see why we sometimes misread each other’s intentions, even when we both mean well.

Some of these patterns can take years to recognize. We created Figure Us Out to give other couples a way to learn these things sooner and put that understanding to use in everyday life.

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There’s more to understand about the person you love.

A clearer picture of each other.
Something practical to do together.

Get the couples package for $35

One payment covers both of you. No subscription.

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